I’m going to take an image from what she said and circle the section I want to talk about.
Okay so now to start off the entire page is outdated and while she did state the last day she updated it. It would be nice that she updated it regularly to keep it up to date.
It is true that a lot has been going on between us and that we know each other personally/irl. I did actually kick her out without warning and clarification and I did already acknowledge that I shouldn’t have done that almost immediately. I believe I also already apologised for that. There is a really small chance I didn’t but then it would have been like a super duper small chance. And while I would love to show you a screenshot as proof sadly I cant because most of the communication happened in a discord server that I have since left. (the server didn’t have anything to do with the webring at all by the way).
I skipped a small part here because that’s basically also what she said before nothing much. (again if you want to read it go to her site) Okay so here she said that I said she violated a rule by harassing me by spamming my site. Now before I say what I’m about to say I want to share that I struggle with some memory issues and I did not take any screen shots so some stuff might not be a 100% accurate to what I said but I’m trying my best don’t come for me. So I actually gave the harassment only as example or a cause of her not being a decent human being.Now allow me to go into who or what a decent human being is actually and what the purpose of the rule is. So a decent human being is actually a very subjective term and I used it because I didn’t really think I would need it. I have the rule so that if someone that is in the webring does something that I believe can make the webring a not save environment that I can deny them access or kick them from the server. So for here the term suggests someone that can make the webring an unsafe environment.
She takes accountability for the harassment but she says that was 2 months before the webring was created but I have reason to believe she also did it 1 month before and even after the creation now that are only suspicions and I’m not going to use that as proof for that reason.
Now going back to what I said before I define decent human being as someone who doesn't make the webring an unsafe space. I believe that if someone harasses someone they can make the webring an unsafe space especially if the harassment happened on a personal website where that’s what the entire webring is about. Even if that happened before they joined the webring.
I refused to tell who it is simply because the person said they wanted to remain anonymous and I didn’t even know who it was. I don’t believe it should matter who reported it and that every report should be taken seriously. She wasn’t only removed based on what the person reported, she was also removed based on my experience hence my earlier example being about my experience. Now you may be asking why did you only kick her out after the report and not when she first wanted to join it. That is actually entirely my fault I shouldn’t have actually let her in in the first place but I can sometimes be a bit blind toward that stuff and forgive people to quickly. The report made me realize that I have been a bit blind and should remove her.
I didn’t and still don’t want to go down my “screenshot rabbit hole” because reading most of that stuff actually makes me stressed and upset for long periods of time. Last time I did it I actually was still affected by it at night which caused me to do some stupid unrelated actions. Im telling this to show its actually really harmful for me to read that back that combined with my memory issues makes it that I can’t point exact situations.
I skipped a bit again because I don’t have anything to say about it. Here she says I have been ignoring her which isn’t true I already told her multiple days ago that her messages didn’t send to me. I don’t know why it happened but it did and we have to deal with it now. Eventually the message did send and I could read them. Since then I have responded to all her messages and emails about this. This is an issue like I stated at the beginning of her not updating the page.She also says that she recommends not to join the webring because she believes its not a fair community. To that I have to say, its is me who you are talking with not the entire community. And either you read this and do want to join or you still don’t I don’t mind either way it’s a free choice.
At the end she says that if I have an issue with the page I can ask her to take it down. Now I will not do that (unless it starts causing active harm) because she is free to express her concerns and she links back to my page so people can also see this and see both sides of the story
If you have any questions or anything else you want to share feel free to email me at axelotl3001@gmail.com and if you want to or if I find it relevant enough I will add it to this page.